Parenting Tips

Being a parent can be challenging at times and we all need help. If you are experiencing any of the following feelings, please seek help for yourself:

  • You feel lonely and isolated with no-one to turn to
  • You feel nervous and unable to cope
  • You feel you are not a good parent
  • You are depressed
  • Your problems seem overwhelming
  • You’re afraid of what you might do to your child
  • You sometimes hurt your child
  • You are experiencing sexual feelings toward your child

 

Protecting Your Child

The following items should be kept out of the reach of children: 
  • bleach
  •  kerosene
  • gasoline
  • medication/tablets
  • alcohol
  • household cleaners (detergent, disinfectant, oven-cleaners, dishwashing liquid etc.)
  • cologne
  • relaxer cream (for hair)
  • furniture spray
  • bug spray
  • weed killer
  • any other substance which is not intended for consumption

NEVER put harmful substances in drink or milk bottles or cans. Remember that products such as apple juice and pine cleaners, candies and tablets, medicines and lamp oil look alike and children can mistake a poisonous substance for a safe one.

If your child swallows any dangerous substance:
  • Take the child to the hospital immediately
  • Do not induce vomiting
  • Do not give the child anything to eat or drink
  • Keep nose and mouth clean/clear
  • Keep air passages clear

 

Shaken Baby Syndrome

Never shake your baby. Shaking a baby can cause blindness, brain damage, hearing loss, spinal cord injury, seizures, cerebral palsy, learning disabilities and even death.  The number one reason why a baby is shaken is because he or she won’t stop crying. Even tossing a baby into the air or bouncing it on the knee can cause damage. Babies’ necks are too weak to support their heavy heads. When they are shaken, the head flops back and forth, causing serious damage. A young baby’s neck should always be supported.

If your baby will not stop crying, count to ten and calm down. If you have done everything you can to make the baby comfortable, i.e. fed the baby, changed the diaper, burped the baby, then, allow the baby to cry awhile. Go to another part of the house and check on the baby every 10-15 minutes. Call a family member or friend for emotional support. Take the baby to the hospital or call the baby’s doctor in case something is medically wrong.

 

Be Alert!

  • Never leave your child alone, even in a car
  • Listen to your child when he/ she says he/she does not want to be with someone
  • Get to know your child’s friends and activities
  • Be cautious if someone is showing an excessive amount of interest in your child
  • Be aware of changes in your child’s behaviour
  • Be sure that your child’s school or nursery does not allow anyone other than yourself or someone you have identified to collect your child from school
  • Talk to your child about who to talk to or who to call if lost or separated from parent or guardian when away from home
  • ALWAYS listen to your child when he/she wants to talk to you about something and ALWAYS believe what your child is telling you

 

Your Child Needs to Hear

  • I’m so lucky and blessed to have you
  • You’re a great helper
  • I like it when you try hard and do your best
  • Let’s talk about it
  • I’m sorry
  • You’re very special to me
  • Thank you for your help
  • I love you
  • You’re great!

 

Adults Abused as Children

Adults abused as children are the grown up survivors of child abuse. They come from all races, religions and socio-economic groups.

They may have experienced:
  • Physical abuse (beating, shaking, shoving, kicking, bruising, burning , choking)
  • Emotional abuse (yelling, criticizing, threatening, ridiculing, failing to provide guidance and love)
  • Sexual abuse (indecent exposure, sexual touching, fondling, sexual intercourse. Boys as well as girls are sexually abused)
Years later there may still be problems such as:
  • Depression
  • Feelings of isolation
  • Troubled relationships
  • Self-destructive behaviour
  • Lack of direction or motivation
  • Problems raising children
  • Unable to cope with the stress of raising children
  • Unable to feel close to their children
  • Abusive behavior towards their own children 
Adults abused as children may experience:
  • Low self esteem
  • Violent or destructive acts
  • Drug or alcohol abuse
  • Troubled marriages
  • Problems at work
  • Thoughts of suicide
  • Eating disorders
  • Sexual problems
  • Sleeping problems
  • Depression
  • General anxiety

Remember….it is never too late to seek help and counselling. Call us at the Crisis Centre on 328-0922