Date Rape & Teen Dating Violence

As 60-80% of all rapes involve friends, acquaintances or family members, many occur on dates.   How to protect yourself from date rape:

  • Clearly communicate with your date
  • Be aware of the people you are with and your surroundings
  • Double date or go out in groups
  • Watch your drink to make sure no one slips anything into it
  • Limit  your use of alcohol
  • Avoid using drugs
  • Carry extra money with you
  • Set sexual limits and communicate them
  • Trust your feelings: If you feel you are being pressured into unwanted sex, you are right

Detecting Teen Dating Violence

It might be difficult to detect whether or not you’re in a violent or abusive relationship as a teen. Here is a list of indicators you can use:

Does your partner:
  • Criticize what you wear, what you do and who your friends are?
  • Act jealous when you talk to others, even your friends?
  • Control who you talk to and who you go out with? Get angry or violent easily?
  • Try to force you into having sex? Pressure you to take drugs or drink alcohol?
  • Threaten to physically hurt you or someone you care about?
  • Abuse you emotionally or physically and then says he/she is sorry?
  • Call you names such as “fat” “lazy” “ugly” “stupid”?

If you have checked any of the above, you may be in an abusive relationship. Relationships should make both partners happy and comfortable in each others company. If you are not, then it is time to bring the relationship to an end. In 2011 a program was initiated to allow trained volunteers to visit high schools to discuss with students the signs and dangers of teen relationship violence. The program is ongoing and has been found to be very effective in interacting with students to ascertain their concerns and beliefs on this topic. Call The Crisis Centre on 328-0922 for support.